Last year I was thrilled that the preschool program was not having a party. For me, it was one less battle to fight. Tyler was 3 and did not realize he was missing anything.
He's 4 now. He is a smart kid. I'm pretty sure my "avoiding the hype" days are over. In fact, my husband wants Tyler trick or treat this year so he is "just one of the kids." I understand that. Really, I do.
My husband does not have quite the comfort zone I do (some days I envy that!), yet, I knew we had to change how we did things this year. I tend to be a worrier. (Does the fact that I write a daily blog on my son's peanut allergy give that fact away?)
When you compound the fact much of the "safe" candy out there has high fructose corn syrup in it, which greatly aggravates Tyler's eczema, I'm left with little candy he can eat. Plus, all that candy (minus PA and eczema) is just not healthy.
So, we have come to a great compromise in our home. Its nothing new and many of you probably do it. But, a few moms I have mentioned it to had not thought of it and loved the idea! In truth, I think it will be our standard Halloween practice until Tyler outgrows the whole trick or treating gig.
Here is a time line of what we will do:
- On Halloween night, my boys will get dressed up just like all the other kids do. (Being "like the other kids" is so important when at all possible when you live with PA.)
- I will stay at home and hand out "safe" candy. In past years I have bought a couple of big bags of Willy Wonka candy at Sam's. This allows our home to stay safe and Tyler to have a little bit of candy to snack on (albeit with HFCS!)
- My husband will take the boys out. I will provide them with some sort of "bag" that does not keep the candy right at their fingertips (possibly a pillowcase, if my husband will not be mortified with the look of that!).
- I will take an anxiety pill when they leave (Oh, no, I am kidding...I don't have anxiety pills...but I might need them that night!!)
- My husband will watch the candy the boys are receiving and try to make sure they are not getting things that actually contain peanuts (Snickers, Butterfingers, etc). We will probably just teach the boys to say "No peanuts, please!" when they see those things.
- Oh gosh, I didn't mention this but it goes without saying, the Epi Pen and Benadryl will be with my husband at all times. He has a nut allergy, too, so there is a lot of it to go around in our home!
- When the boys arrive home, we will take their candy bags. I will provide plenty of safe candy and other treats (not too much, though!).
- More anxiety pills for me (...kidding again!...)
- The day after Halloween (that would be November 1, right?!?!), I will take the boys to Toys R Us and let them pick out one "Thomas the Tank Engine train" (their favorite toy). The price for their "free" train?? The bag of loot ("unsafe junk") from the night before.
Anyone else do something similar to this in their home??